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Are you anally adventurous? Then there’s no doubt that you have been considering a deep clean for some time. For no muss, no fuss in the wonderful world of anal play, douching and enemas are becoming increasingly popular. They can also be enjoyed as part of some extreme BDSM play, so why not put some intense pressure on your sub, and give it a go?

We know that douching/an enema as a standalone activity can be an intensely sensual experience. So for all you budding klismaphiliacs out there, UberKinky has put together this comprehensive guide to give you some essential pointers. Enjoy some good clean fun and start fulfilling those downstairs desires without delay!

Safety First!

STOP! For practising safe sanitation, it is imperative that you read through these safety tips carefully. UberKinky takes your well-being seriously, that’s why it’s important that you have all the facts before we send you on your way, douche/enema in hand. Although partaking in douching or an enema is a relatively risk free practice, there are a couple of things that you should consider before moving forward.

Here at UberKinky, we live by the theory that everything is supremely satisfying in moderation. So don’t overdo it! Excessive douching and enemas can cause the mucous lining of the anus to be washed away, leaving you vulnerable to infections. It can also cause cuts and interfere with normal bowel function. We recommend that you fulfil your anal ambitions no more than once or twice weekly.

If you’re a little over-excited and want to dive straight in at the deep end; calm down, there’s no rush! It is crucial that you always follow these dos and don’ts to get the most from your play;

Don’t:

  • Use soap, salts, or other additives, as they could cause irritation – if you’re just starting out, save the additives for when you’re a little more experienced
  • Use if you have any heart problems or any other serious health related issues
  • Strain or force the fluid out of the rectum, it will be expelled naturally

Do:

  • Rinse your douche or enema before use
  • Go to the toilet before getting started
  • Thoroughly clean your douche/enema after use with antibacterial toy cleaner
  • Stop if you experience any pain or severe discomfort
  • Test the temperature of the water before filling your douche/enema (it should be body temperature, approximately 37-40 C)

Getting Started

So you can’t believe that it’s taken you so long, but you’re finally ready to take the plunge? Well if you’re all set for some anal action, but you’re still unsure of how to administer this medical procedure; have no fear, UberKinky is here to solve all of those douching dilemmas. Simply follow this step by step guide and you’ll be on your way to cleansed contentment in no time;

  1. Give your cleaning device a clean of its own
  2. Fill it with warm (not hot!) water
  3. Lubricate the anus and nozzle of the enema or douche
  4. Insert the finger to ensure that the muscles are relaxed
  5. Assume the position – there are three optimum positions for administering an enema or douching;
    • Sims’ – lie straight on the left side, with the right leg bent over the left leg
    • Knee-chest – lie face down and bring the knees into the chest
    • Lying on the back with the knees bentbeginners-guide-to-anal-douching-enemas-diagrams

Although, if you are a die hard fetishist you may want to try; seated on a rim seat, queening stool, or an examination seat with stirrups

  1. Insert the nozzle just past the sphincter
  2. Squeeze in as much, or as little water, as you are comfortable with
  3. Remove the nozzle slowly and gently
  4. Move around and massage the stomach in a clockwise direction – this will get the fluid flowing
  5. Hold the water in the anus until you naturally feel the urge to expel it – do so whilst sitting on the toilet
  6. Repeat as required until the water runs clear

For less of a deep clean, and more of a rectal rise, only introduce a small amount of water into the body.

Don’t:

  • Release the bulb (if using a hand held squeezing device) whilst still inserted in the anus as it will suck the ‘dirty’ water back in
  • Douche or use an enema right before anal play, you should allow 2-3 hours to ensure that all of the water has been expelled

Do:

  • Insert the finger first to relax the muscles before inserting the nozzle
  • Use plenty of water based lubricant
  • Have a towel nearby in case of emergency

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You can’t fool us! You may look like butt-er wouldn’t melt, but we know that everyone craves some intense anal action every once in a while. So, what could be more exciting than playing host to a stimulating sex toy specifically designed to ‘ring’ your bell?

Well, when it comes to anal sex toys, you can’t beat the weird yet wonderful UberKinky collection! However, we’re not just here to plug our anally accomplished range; we’re also here to make all of your BIG dreams a reality. So, whether you want to get your fill of lascivious behaviour, add a little beauty to your brawn, intensify your sex play or take your BDSM/humiliation play to extremes, for the ultimate in back door gratification a butt plug is a welcome addition to any play.

Now, sit back, relax and open yourself up to a world of new possibilities!

Safety First!

You know that song, ‘Ring of Fire’?! Well, in order to avoid giving an all new meaning to the phrase, it’s vital that you read through our safety section carefully. After all, you don’t want unforeseen circumstances to pull the plug on your back door fun, do you?

Firstly, it is imperative to clean your toys thoroughly before and after each use. If you plan to share please check the safety of doing so. Porous toys can transmit infections and should therefore only be shared if condoms are used. For more information regarding cleaning and sex toy safety tips, please take a look at our Beginner’s Guide to Sex Toy Materials.

Now, being lost in space is a frightening prospect. However, getting a butt plug lost in Ur-anus can be an even more terrifying thought, particulay for those of us that aren’t astronauts! That’s why it is imperative that you follow our advice and choose a toy with a flange (flared base). If you select an alternative design (there are always those that think they know best!) and your toy does get lost in the moment, it is important to remain calm. Simply sit on the toilet and push, as if doing a poo. The toy should move downwards to a point where it can be pulled out easily. Failing that, however, it may be an appropriate time to take a trip to the emergency room. Have no fear; ‘good’ boys and girls that listen to UberKinky will be just fine!

Finally, don’t overdo it; remember everything (and we mean everything) in moderation!

Don’t:

  • Choose a long, hard butt plug
  • Use a toy with a circumference greater than 4.5 inches (diameter – 1.4 ins.)
  • Force a plug in, be patient!
  • Choose a textured or ridged plug
  • Wear for more than 20 minutes. You can gradually build this up over time (if you desire)

Do:

  • Choose a small, smooth butt plug
  • Make sure your butt plug has a flared base (flange)
  • Use plenty of lubricant
  • Go slowly and stop immediately if you feel any pain
  • Sanitise toys before and after each use
  • Use a condom if your toy is porous and you plan to share

Getting Started

Are you really pumped about horsing around? Do you get a real buzz out of being stretched to your limits? Or, are you just looking for something substantial to fill that hole? Well, we know you’re excited, but it’s not a race…all good things come to those who wait! After all, even Usain Bolt starts slowly.

How difficult it is to insert the butt plug will vary from person to person. Some people are much more relaxed and flexible than others. Until you are comfortable taking a whole butt plug we recommend that you fly solo and get used to the sensations.

So, here’s our step by step guide to get you started. You will find this process easier if you are already slightly aroused. Like you needed an excuse 😉

  1. Apply plenty of lubricant to the anus and the toy
  2. Gently insert a well lubricated finger into the anus and allow it a little time to explore
  3. Assume the position. We recommend one of the following;
    • Laid on your side
    • On all fours (doggy-style)
    • Squatting over the butt plug (either on the knees or feet)
  4. Cough. This may seem odd, but coughing actually helps to relax the sexual organs. Trust us, we know from experience!
  5. Hold your butt plug by the flange and the shaft. Point it towards the anal opening, angled upwards slightly towards the stomach. Lightly push in the tip (using a condom on your toy will aid a quick clean up)
    • Some discomfort is normal, but if you feel any pain at this point please stop immediately
  6. Leave the tip whilst you become accustomed to your new back door buddy
  7. If you are able to, gradually and gently push in the rest of the butt plug. It is common for this to take a few tries, but don’t dismay UberKinky friends, just plug away! Try again the following day, and the day after, until you are able to take the full thing
  8. Try squeezing the sphincter muscles around the toy for greater stimulation. You can even slide in and out for a added pleasure

In the beginning, it is quite common for muscle contractions to cause the butt plug to shoot back out of the anus. Although this can be quite entertaining, it should not continue over time. If it does, it may be worth considering a slightly larger plug, or one designed for long term use.

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Fetish Related Prostate Health

“What is fetish related prostate health?” I hear you cry. Don’t despair; This is here, as always, to give you the facts. Whether you’re the sort of person that spends hours at the gym, watching your food intake, or you simply like to relax and hope for the best, we have just the medical motivation to inspire your best workout ever. Stave off prostate related health problems whilst experiencing orgasmic anal action with this simple, yet satisfying procedure. Staying healthy has never been so exciting!

So what is prostate milking/massage? It is the process of releasing fluid from the prostate by stimulating the gland. During your normal orgasm only a small amount of the alkaline amalgam from the prostate is released. Over time, a build up of this fluid can become stagnant causing bacteria to grow. This is often the culprit of prostate disease.

Most health care professionals agree that expelling fluids from the prostate every three weeks is beneficial for maintaining a healthy gland. Research suggests that men who fail to do so are at a greater risk of developing prostatitis, benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH) and prostate cancer.

Although prostate massage should always be used as a preventative measure rather than a cure, in cases of chronic prostatisits it offers an incredible form of pain relief. It is also essential for men with impotence and chaste males in order to keep the seminal fluid flowing and prevent a build up in the prostate.

Here at tryfm.com, we don’t like to scaremonger, but we do like to deliver you with the facts; so here are just a couple…. Research shows that prostate cancer is the most common of cancers amongst men, and it is predicted to be the most common cancer overall by 2030. The lifetime risk of a man developing this deadly disease is 1 in 8.

So, what are you waiting for?

Safety First!

TryFm WANTS YOU… to be safe! We hope that you know by now, your safety is our number one priority. That’s why we want you to care for your prostate, but do so safely. So follow these useful tips and we promise that your medical procedure will be as pain free and pleasurable as possible.

Remember; less is most certainly more when it comes to applying pressure to your prostate.

Don’t:

  • Press hard onto the central area of the prostate
  • Massage if you have prostate cancer – milking can transport the cancer to other parts of the body
  • Massage the prostate if you have acute prostatitis as it can cause the infection to spread
  • Milk the prostate if you have calculi (small stones in the prostate) as it can increase the risk of tearing or scratching the gland

Do:

  • Trim the fingernails
  • Wash the hands
  • Consider wearing a latex glove if using the finger
  • Go to the toilet before getting started
  • Use plenty of lubricant
  • Stop if you experience any pain
  • Check with your doctor prior to milking if you have any health concerns
  • Use an enema or douche 3-4 hours before massaging with a toy

Getting Started

So you’ve decided to give your prostate some much needed care and attention, but you’re unsure of how to find that elusive ‘P spot’? Well, there are four main ways to embark on this anal adventure, and to show how much we care we’ve detailed them for you below. We like to make things simple for you here at TryFm, so follow these straight forward instructions and you’ll be on your way to experiencing perfect prostate pleasure in no time. We recommend that the finger is used as a starting point, as it allows for easy insertion and optimum comfort.

Internal Massage with Finger

  1. Assume the position: We recommend lying on the back to aid relaxation
  2. Lube aplenty: Lavish lubricant in and around the anus, as well as on the finger
  3. Pre-arousal: Gently massage the testicles, penis and perineum
  4. Spread em: Move the buttocks apart and gently massage the rectal opening
  5. Open wide: Insert the finger slowly and gently into the anus (approximately 1 inch). Gently move the finger around, without going deeper
  6. Deep exploration: Insert the finger in an upward direction towards to navel
  7. Be gentle: When you feel soft rounded tissue, the size of a walnut, you have reached your destination
  8. Massage: Gently stroke the sides of the prostate in a ‘come here’ motion, avoiding the centre all together
    • For intensified orgasm
  9. Finger Fun: When orgasm is approaching, move the finger in and out of the rectum
  10. Penis Pleasure: Gently massage the penis
  11. Success: When orgasm is achieved, semen will flow lightly from the penis

Internal Massage With Probe

Are those fragile fingers not quite hitting the spot? Then a probe may be the preferable option for your medical procedure. A probe allows for easy insertion and pain free pleasure. Don’t forget to sterilise your instrument before use.

Internal Massage With Toy

Want to achieve optimum results without getting those hands dirty? Prostate massagers are ergonomically shaped to really hit the ‘spot’. So if you want optimum results, derived from minimum effort, TryFm recommends the following devices;

External Massage

If you’re not one for diving in at the deep end, the same results can be achieved by simply performing an external massage on the perineum. Run the fingers between the base of the penis and the anus until you feel a slight indentation. Gently massage that area to stimulate the prostate. This method may induce an immediate erection and can, as with internal massage, result in ejaculation.

With all of these methods, orgasm is achieved on average between 15 and 20 minutes. The sensation will be somewhat more subtle that what you are used to, but just as, if not more, satisfying. Don’t go harder if no fluid escapes, it just means that there is not an excess amount sitting in the prostate at this time.

Chastity & BDSM Play

So you want to milk your man, but you don’t want him to derive any pleasure from it whatsoever? Here at TryFm we know that you care about your slave’s long term health, but that doesn’t mean that you don’t want to see him suffer in the meantime! It is particularly important that a chaste male has his prostate milked at least once a week to keep his juices flowing. There’s no need for the device to be removed, but make sure he cleans it well afterwards. To ensure that your man doesn’t encounter any pleasure from this activity, try numbing the penis and testicles with ice beforehand, and definitely don’t provide any other form of arousal.

Which Lubricant Should I Use?

In order for everything to run smoothly with your new endeavour, lubricant is a ‘must’. It is possible to use both silicone and water based lubricants for this type of play, but remember to never use silicone based lube with silicone toys as it will degrade them. When it comes to prostate milking, we prefer to stick with a water based lubricant, that’s why we recommend a splash of the following lubes to get you going;

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Ask Cara: Women’s beginner’s guide to giving a man anal pleasure (& helpful top tips)

Question

I’ve started a new relationship with a man and it turns out he wants me to give him anal pleasure. I’ve only ever been with one guy before who liked it and it was a very short relationship so we didn’t dabble that much. I know things like keeping my nails short and using lube but after that I am pretty clueless! I know how I like my ass played with but that’s me, and I’m a woman – I have no idea what I am doing with a man. Could you possibly explain how to give anal pleasure to a man, or some kind of beginner’s guide? Some helpful top tips would be really awesome! Hoping you can help.

– Anon

Answer

Hi there and thanks for your question. Anal play is a sensitive subject (pun entirely intended) for all parties involved. As you may be aware, the tissue and lining inside the anal area is quite thin and prone to tears and rips if not treated with the utmost respect.

 

  1. Always use lube. I cannot emphasise this enough. Lubricant is mandatory for anal play. I don’t mean a quick spit on your fingertips before shoving them in with a whispered prayer either; I’m talking about honest-to-goodnesssex lube. You can choose from water based or silicone, there are even thicker formulation lubricants available especially for anal sex and use with anal sex toys. They’re less likely to run too fast and dribble into a messy puddle beneath. You can also make sure it stays where intended and feel where it’s going – no matter what the lighting in the room is like.
  2. Work slowly. Rushing when it comes to anal pleasure does nobody any good – at least not until there’s a decent about of lubrication, little to zero friction and everyone’s passionate in the heat of the moment. This is especially true for newbies to anal play. Things in the bottom seem larger than they appear so start very small, smaller than you’d think. Edge the tip of a pinky finger inside to begin with, aided by lubricant (I may have mentioned lube already).
  3. In a similar vein, if you want to introduce anal sex toys to him then start off very small. There are various butt plugs for beginners and a static one first of all (as opposed to a vibrating butt plug) may be less intimidating and help him get used to the shape and feel inside him. Only use sex toys with a flared base for anal play as this will stop them from being ‘sucked up’ into the body. Other ideal anal beginner toys are multi butt plug sets which let you experiment with different sizes, as well as inflatable options which give you the versatility of a small or large butt plug and everywhere in between – as well as a quick release valve in case of panic.
  4. Give additional pleasure while experimenting with his anal region. This is quite tricky, as it’s natural to want to see what you’re doing. Extra and familiar pleasure helps him relax and allows you to explore his ass with your fingers if you’re giving him a fluid, well lubricated hand job at the same time, paying attention to his testicles as well as his shaft and penis tip, of course. In later sessions you might feel confident enough to kiss and suck his penis, giving a languid and thoroughly stimulating blow job while you probe his anal area slowly.
  5. When giving anal pleasure to a man, you would do well to be aware of a little something called the prostate. A little walnut shaped something, to be precise. This gland is located fairly deep inside the anal canal, on the upper wall if the man is laying face up. You should be able to just about stimulate it with a fingertip or two but it takes practice – and again, more lube. Use a beckoning motion with your finger and watch him squirm in pleasure. You’re right to keep your fingernails short! The prostate is the epicentre of a man’s anal pleasure. When correctly stimulated, the prostate can lead to full body orgasms like your man has never before experienced. For more on this subject and a great deal of in-depth, expert knowledge, I highly recommend Charlie Glickman’s The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure (here at Amazon.com:https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1573449040/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=1573449040&linkCode=as2&tag=carsut-20&linkId=IYPA6HZHSU3LTH3N). It’s a must-read for everything prostate and male anal  pleasure.
  6. A little housekeeping: don’t use sex toys from anal to vaginal (woman) or share sex toys between his anus and your anus and/or vagina. The anal area is loaded with bacteria which can cause nasty irritations, infections and other medical issues of a nasty nature if you introduce them to other areas on yourself or on another person. After anal play, always make sure you wash all items involved (sex toys, fingers, body parts) thoroughly and use an anti-bacterial soap (or relevant spray, in the case of sex toys). Use a nail brush to make sure you remove any nasties from under your nails.

I hope that this short guide to giving a man anal pleasure has helped – good luck and enjoy your anal adventures together.

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Anal sex is an art form of sexual encounters. When done right it can be highly erotic, when done wrong it can turn you or your lover off from anal sex forever. Being safe is one of the keys to ensuring that you get the most out of your anal experience.

There’s nothing complicated about anal sex safety. Yet, in the zealousness of the moment, it’s often overlooked. Unlike PIV sex, spontaneity with anal sex isn’t always a good choice. Instead a bit of planning and preparation can go a long way.

Comfort

Having lube on hand is a must. Since your anus doesn’t create its own lubrication like the vagina does, you’ll need to reapply lube as you play. Lube will keep everything slick and gliding smoothly. How much lube is too much? There’s no such thing. Too little lube, things will drag and pull as you play. Believe me, it doesn’t feel erotic at all. What kind of lube should you use? Water based lube is always the best choice. Because it’s body and condom safe, there’s little to no chance of irritation. When using water based lube, keep in mind that the body absorbs it making reapplying necessary. Also when choosing a lube, remember that silicone oil based lubricant can break down condoms and cause them to tear while being used.

Having manicured nails is also an aspect to consider. Jagged, rough or hang nails can irritate or tare the thin mucus membrane of the rectum. The same goes for toys used in the anus, be sure that they’re free from sharp edges or texture that might irritate the rectum. Also, keep in mind that anything you put in your ass should be made for it. Toys with flared bases ensure that they don’t slip too far in the anus.

Cleanliness

Although not directly related to safety, having a bowl movement the day you plan on having anal sex will cut down on the chance of an accident. Using an anal douche a few hours before you play can also be used to ensure that’s there’s no accidents.

Because the rectum contains bacteria, condoms are a great choice to keep everything clean. They can even be used over your toys. Not only good for cleanliness, condoms will protect you from STD’s.

Latex condoms are anal safe. So are pre-lubricated condoms. However, condoms that are lubricated with nonoxynol-9, often found in some lubricants and used to kill HIV and STD’s , should be avoided. Although it was once widely recommended, now we know that it’s often too harsh for the soft tissue of the rectum.

Condoms today come with a lot of bells or whistles. Many designed for her pleasure are not the best choice for anal sex because the texture can be irritating.

Never share fingers, toys or a dick between your anus and vagina. The anus contains bacteria which can cause infection. Therefore, anything that’s put in the anus should be thoroughly cleaned before sharing it with another area your lover’s body. Using a glove for fingers or a condom over toys, makes it a lot easier to clean up and continue playing.

I always use silicone, glass, metal or wood toys for anal play. They are non-porous, so they don’t harbor bacteria, and are easy to clean with a bit of anti-bacterial soap and water.

Anal sex is an erotic experience for both lovers. Yet, many people avoid it with a ten foot pole because of fears or a past bad experience. Being knowledgeable about the finer points of anal pleasure helps you be a better lover and creates an experience that both you and lover are sure to want more of.

Communicate with your lover, be safe and take things slow and you’re anal sex experience should leave you wanting it again and again.