The sexual act of anal penetration is generally misunderstood. Despite the fact that one out of every four women has engaged in anal intercourse, the practice remains taboo.
Many women are nervous to try anal sex because of the many myths and misconceptions surrounding the practice. Let’s take a look at these myths and uncover the truth.
Myth #1 Anal Sex is Only for Homosexuals
That’s absolutely not true. Simply another option for sexual gratification, many heterosexual couples enjoy anal sex on a regular basis. In fact, anal sex has nothing at all to do with sexual identity. A recent study found that 44% of straight men under 50 have had anal sex at least once in their lives.
Myth #2 Anal Sex is Unnatural
Considering that even today many states still have sodomy laws on record, it’s no wonder that anal sex is seen as unnatural. However most of these laws were pushed forward by mainstream religion. Anal sex has been around for centuries and is viewed as acceptable in many cultures. For instance, at the famous Khajurao temples there are beautiful sculptures depicting anal pleasures. In other cultures, women engage in anal sex for pleasure while protecting their virginity for future marriage.
Ultimately, you must decide for yourself what is or isn’t natural. If you’re uncomfortable with any sexual act, don’t do it! You are in charge of what you do sexually.
Myth #3 Anal Sex is Dirty
Early in our childhood we are taught that the anus is dirty and shouldn’t be touch. However with daily hygiene, the anus is as clean as other parts of your body. However, like other parts of the body, the anus contains bacteria. With a little bit of care while playing and good common sense there’s nothing to be concerned about. However, there are a few precautions which you can take to make sure everything is clean while you play; such as, using a condom or an anal douche.
Myth #4 Anal Sex is Painful
If anal sex causes these issues you are doing it wrong. The key to pleasurable anal sex is relaxation and lots of lubrication. Relaxing your external sphincter will make anal penetration easier and more pleasurable; a slight pressure as you relax is common. Also, because the anus doesn’t create natural lubrication, use lots of water based lube to make things more pleasurable. If you learn the proper techniques before you begin experimenting, you may find anal sex enjoyable.
Myth #5 Anal Sex can be Harmful
According to Dr. Hilda Hutcherson, author of “What Your Mother Never Told You About Sex,” anal sex doesn’t cause hemorrhoids, fissures or even tears; under normal circumstances. However, using lube to reduce friction is a must. Also, contrary to popular belief, semen or sperm isn’t harmful to your rectum either.
Others believe that anal sex will make their anus loose leading to inconstancy later in life; untrue. Learning to control the sphincter is helpful not only for anal sex but also when having a bowl movement.
Myth #6 Women Don’t Like It
It’s a common thought that anal sex is only enjoyable for men. Anal sex does take a learning curve; a few times of trying to adjust the angle of penetration, relaxing and speed of thrusting to figure out what you like. Also during the first few moments of penetration, it’s common to feel some pressure. This slight discomfort is well worth the orgasm that often follows.
The anus is full of nerve receptors that also feed the G-spot. Many women report being able to experience a G-spot orgasm, or even a full pelvic orgasm, from anal sex alone.
Myth #7 There’s No Difference Between the Anal Sex and PIV Sex
Thinking that anal sex feels the same as PIV sex for your partner is a misconception. I asked Hubby if it feels different and he said, “Oh, yes.” He described my vagina as being stretchy and full of folds that give varying friction depending on where he’s at inside of me. My rectum, on the other hand, he described as feeling deep, long and velvety smooth; a complete sensation all its own.
Myth #8 I’m Way Too Small
The rectum is a tube which collapses and stretches to accommodate what’s inside of it; it’s not a stretchy pouch like the vagina. Think about the size of your large poop, compared to that I’m sure that your anus will easily stretch enough to accommodate your fellow.
Myth #9 Anal Sex Causes Aids or STD’s
This is absolutely wrong. If both partners are STD free, it’s impossible to contract AIDS. If this is your fear, please educate yourself about the source of AIDS and other STD’s.
When it comes to anal sex, education is your friend. Learning about the different techniques, tips and tricks can be the difference between loving it and hating it. Try to open yourself up to trying new things and take it slow. I’m sure that you’ll find anal sex isn’t as bad as you thought.