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In this day and age of sexual acceptance Anal Sex still remains a taboo sexual act. Although many couples thoroughly enjoy it, you don’t find many women willing to admit it. More times than not, when someone mentions Anal Sex it brings to mind gay or bisexual men, rather than something enjoyable between heterosexual couples. Yet, the truth is that more and more women are engaging in Anal Sex and loving it.

When I reveal my secret pleasure to other women, the response is generally the same, “How can you enjoy that?” and “Doesn’t it hurt?” My answer never changes, “It only hurts for a moment, but the pleasure is well worth a little cringe.”

Hubby and I have been enjoying Anal Sex regularly for a few years now. After I learned to relax and breathe when he enters my rear, I become rather addicted to it. Although I absolutely love the sensations when I feel him deep inside of me, I’ve never experienced a true anal orgasm. That is, until the other night.

That’s right, an anal orgasm isn’t just for men; women can enjoy them too.

As we all know, everyone’s body is different and experience pleasures uniquely. Yet for most women, the anus is very active during a PIV (penis in vagina) orgasm, you just might not know it. During an orgasm the sphincter muscles are clenching and relaxing, those contractions stimulate the sensitive nerve endings in both the vagina and anus and often times make your orgasm even better.

How can this be, you ask? The anus is flooded with nerve endings most of which move through the Pudendal Nerve, which is the same nerve that serves the clitoris. Further inside of the rectum, stimulation will be picked up by the same nerves that responds to stimulation of the inner vagina the cervix; the Pelvic Nerve. Stimulating these nerves can cause a deep and throbbing sensation inside both the vagina and anus. With many tiny branches of these nerves surrounding and connecting to the anus, it’s easy to see why Anal Sex is enjoyable.

If you haven’t experience an anal orgasm, extra stimulation is an excellent way to help you achieve one. While having Anal Sex, all of your erogenous zones are exposed and easy to access. Try stimulating your clit or even using a vibrator inside your vagina, since all of the nerves are connected it should help to send you into bliss. You can even enlist the help of your lover to help provide extra stimulation.

While having Anal Sex the nerves will fire and its muscles will contract acting like the vagina. However, the rectum isn’t self lubricating. Therefore, extra lubrication is needed while having Anal Sex for things to be more enjoyable.

Explore, be safe and have fun. I’m sure you’ll find yourself loving anal orgasms as much as me.

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Back in the day when I was in the middle of puberty, I was intrigued by the allure of older women. My father had a roomer in those days. She was a woman from the Delta, curvy and plain speaking, so comfortable in her body. I couldn’t get enough of her.
Six months after her arrival, she started meeting me in her rooms after school. She was a great teacher in the art of love. She was forty and I was in my mid teens. It was a revelation to see her fully undressed, a cram course in adolescent desire, and the classes were easy to learn from her.
One lesson involved the alchemy of sensual touch and stroking, while another showcased the many areas of the carnal kiss. One other class yielded the various sensitive zones of the breasts where an eager young mouth and fingers could lick and fondle to the teacher’s delight, and yet another one featured the magic of oral sex, all done with sizzle and passion.
However, this older woman never bedded me. No penetration. I was disappointed in that, but those master classes of lust and love have carried me through life to this present day. I was a very good student.

Coo Coo Ca-Choo, Mrs. Robinson

Which brings us to the matter at hand: the current red-hot MILF porn trend, and why it continues to thrive. The concept of a sexual mentor tutoring a younger person, be it any sex, is age old. In fact, the MILF, the American Pie slang for “Mom I’d Like To Fuck,” means that America has—at least partially—shaken off its Puritan cloak and grown up.
Witness the screen myth of Mrs. Robinson, the Desperate Housewives or the gal-pal quartet of Sex And The City. Maybe society has turned a moral and cultural corner in accepting the unbridled sexuality of older women without labeling them as cradle snatchers or loose women.
Nina Hartley, a porn superstar/columnist/sex educator, feels the graying of America has opened the door for this rising MILF trend. “The porn industry has endorsed the MILF films because Boomers are aging and want to see people who look like them—especially Boomer wives, who control what porn is brought into the house.”
Hundreds of porn starlets audition and do films every year. A few—like Sasha Grey, Bree Olsen, Stoya, Kagney Linn Karter, and Tory Black—go on to mainstream success, but most vanish or sink without a trace, meanwhile, MILF performers are enjoying a stream of steady work, or a career renaissance.
Hartley reports that stars from the ’80s and ’90s may be older, but they’re still working and hugely popular. “What makes for a great MILF is a good attitude—liking to have sex and letting it show—and being in shape for her age,” she says. “And it’s good to have a calm and mature mind.”
There’s very little physical difference to be seen in Nina Hartley, “then” and “now.” She remains a looker and totally in demand as a MILF queen. Other former stars in the business have resurfaced and become fan favorites: Ginger Lynn, Rayveness, Midori, Julia Ann, Amber Lynn, Nikki Hunter, Debi Diamond, and Keisha.
Lisa Ann, a star performer during the Golden Age of Porn in 1980s, recently returned to the industry for her award-winning role as Sarah Paylin, and as a regular MILF empress. The actress closed a successful talent agency to concentrate on filming and directing. “I didn’t really expect my career to take off like it has in the past three or four year,” she says. “I’m at this point where I’ve got a few years left and I really want to make the most of it.”

Hard Times Can Be Good Times

While most traditional porn took a major hit when the economy tanked, MILF porn was able to maintain its steady—and growing—niche. At a time when the adult industry began to rely more and more heavily on celebrity sex tapes, TV show parodies, Brazilian drag queens, and Asian nymphets for fiscal survival, profits continued to pour in to the studios from the MILF legends with their younger lads and lasses.
Perhaps a clue to the MILF genre’s ongoing popularity lies in some of the titles:Momma’s Boy, The Mommy Experience, I Want to Cum Inside Your Mom, Mama Likes It Big, Momma Knows Best, Moms Gone Wild, Hot Moms In Heat, MILF Worship, Mommy Likes It Black, Wanna Fuck My Daughter—Gotta Fuck Me First, Mommy Issues, and Mommy Loves Salami. There’s something for everyone.
With its 2010 win, one of the most treasured MILF series, Seasoned Players, has earned actor-director Tom Byron the AVN Awards for two years in a row. If you want to know what the gold standard of MILF porn is, this series—which features such legends as Lisa Ann, Ginger Lynn, Raylene, Kelly Nichols, Teri Weigel, Amber Lynn, and the incomparable Nina Hartley—is it.
“Seasoned Players is my baby,” Byron told AVN Magazine. “To get recognition for it is great, but to win Best MILF series back to back is just awesome.”

It’s Unconditional, Stupid

Whenever the MILF fad is mentioned, there’s always talk about sexual peaks in biology, the younger guys hitting their stride in their late teens or early 20s and older women in their early 40s (sort of like Mrs. Delta and myself). A few years ago, AARP released a study that said 34 percent of all women ages 40 to 60 were dating younger men. Who knew?
All this Mommy talk has its basis in facts, according to Dr. Betty Dodson, the famed sexologist and author of Sex For One: The Joy of Self Loving and Orgasmic Women. “Most young men just naturally love their mothers. After all, it’s the first love affair they experience. And the titty dinner they get during breastfeeding is enduring. Those men who were bottle fed end it up tit obsessed. A mother’s love is unconditional. She loves you no matter how fast you come or how fucking dumb you are.”
Mick Farren, legendary sci-fi novelist and cultural observer for AVN Magazine, agrees. “It’s classic. It’s as least as old as Oedipus and his mom. It’s Dustin Hoffman’s choice in the movie, The Graduate. Who would you want to fuck: Katherine Ross or Anne Bancroft? The answer is both. And there’s the other side of the coin: It’s older women getting some vigorous youthful dick.”
Currently, MILF porn flicks are going through a series of offshoots in various categories and configurations, no longer catering solely to males, but to female as well, gay and transgender demographics. As Nina Hartley concludes, “The Boomers will continue to dominate the culture until we’re all dead. It’s the bulge in the python metaphor. As we age, we’ll keep sex front and center. Sooner or later, there’ll be ‘Geezer Porn,’ I’m sure!”

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Today we are going to discuss orgasm denial. What is it? How do you do it? Why do people like it?

Orgasm denial, or erotic sexual denial as it is sometimes called, is a form of sexual play commonly associated with BDSM, but not always. The point of orgasm denial is to have a highly aroused state, yet not have an orgasm for an extended period of time. The basic concept is you can sexually stimulate your partner as much as you want, but they are not allowed to fully reach climax and have an orgasm. There are multiple ways of playing with orgasm denial, all being similar, but slightly different and having a slightly different end goal.

The first thing you need to decide is whether or not an orgasm will actually be allowed during the play period. Some people will deny their partner an orgasm completely, and when the session ends they will not have had an orgasm. Others will deny their partner an orgasm for an extended period of time (for example one hour), but at the end of the session will let their partner have an orgasm. Certain people get “blue balls” including both female and males if they do not have an orgasm after sexual stimulation. These people likely will want to have an orgasm, but others might receive more satisfaction by being completely denied one.

There are various ways you can deny your partner an orgasm. The easiest way to perform orgasm denial on your partner is to physically restrain them. You can put them in any type of bondage, but the best is where they are unable to reach their genitals or any other area they can orgasm from (so if they can orgasm by stimulating their nipples, then do not let them have access to their nipples). You could use leather restraints, you could use neoprene restraints, you could use rope, or you could use metal restraints. You could use any item you normally use for bondage and tie your partner up. You are now in control of your partner and controlling their orgasm is much easier because they cannot cause an orgasm themselves. The one issue with this method is accessing their genitals might be difficult. If you use rope, it can impede your ability to access their genitals. This just requires some ingenuity and thinking of positions that allow you access but doesn’t allow them access. A great example would be a straightjacket. Their genitals are freely accessible, but they have no access to their genitals because their hands are restrained. Another example would be a hogtie where they are placed onto a Hitachi Magic Wand. The wand stimulates them, but their hands are behind their back. This method of restraining your partner is sometimes called the “tie and tease” method.

The second method is called the “tease and denial” method. In this method, there are no restraints. So it is very similar to the first method, but you just remove all the restraints. In this instance you need to have a partner who will refrain from giving themselves an orgasm. This can be fun for some people because they have to consciously choose to listen to their partner. This can definitely reinforce a D/S type of relationship, but more on that later. You stimulate your partner and stimulate your partner and you watch them, and when they get close to an orgasm you can either remove the stimulation completely (example: remove the vibrator) or you can slow down the stimulation (turn down the vibrator) to prevent the orgasm from happening. This requires knowing a partner decently well and watching quite closely.

The third method is the “total denial” method. In this instance you prevent any genital stimulation. So you could place your partner in a chastity belt and then stimulate their nipples, their thighs, or their buttocks, but you do not allow any direct genital stimulation. This is just a variation which can create a different feeling than the above situations. You technically do not need a chastity belt and could just forbid your partner from touching their genitals at all.

So why do people like orgasm denial? There are two main reasons. The first is that some people find it leads to stronger, longer, and more pleasurable orgasms. They find that after extended arousal, it is more intense and more pleasurable when they are finally allowed to have their orgasm. This is similar to people who do not masturbate for long periods of time and then do, often describing it as a more enjoyable, pleasant, and intense orgasm. The second reason is that people enjoy the dominance and submission of it. There is a high amount of control in this scenario. One person gains sexual control of the other and chooses when they can have sexual release. This D/S dynamic itself can be highly erotic and satisfying to many individuals.

Orgasm denial can be performed using anything really. You could have normal sex and stop when your partner comes close to orgasm. You could use toys such as vibrators and dildos. You could have oral sex. You could use your fingers and manual stimulation. Anything can be used for orgasm denial as long as it creates sexual stimulation that can be controlled enough to prevent an orgasm from occurring.

As always if you have any questions feel free to ask them in the comments.

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If you haven’t already , you should explore your anus with your fingers before you even consider a toy. Get to know the area a bit before you start putting stuff up there!

Any toys that are going into your butt need to be thoroughly cleaned before (and after) penetration. Hot water and soap are usually sufficient, but you can also find antibacterial sprays specially formulated for sex toys. Some toys can also be sterilized by boiling them (or even putting them in the dishwasher); check your toy’s manual for specific instructions (and ya know, maybe don’t toss your dildo in the dishwasher if you have roommates around).

For your first foray into anal sex toy land, think about whether you want to be the one holding the toy, or if you’d like your partner to do it. If you’re nervous, I’d suggest being the one to hold it, since you’ll have more control. A partner has the advantage of being more dexterous, but you’ll have to make sure to communicate with them about what feels good and what doesn’t.

Next, find a position that gives you good leverage. The arm that’s operating the toy will need to stretch further than you usually do when you masturbate. Sitting up in bed with some pillows propped behind you is usually doable. If you’re with a partner, they can sit between your legs. You want to be relaxed and turned on before venturing backdoor. One of the challenges of using anal toys is getting your muscles relaxed enough for penetration,so do whatever tickles your fancy: put some fingers up there, masturbate, get your partner off, watch porn, fantasize, you know the drill.

Make sure you have your trusty lube nearby. If you’re using a silicone toy, you’ll need to use a water-based lube (silicone lubes can break down the silicone in your toy). If you’re using a stainless steel toy, you can go for silicone or water-based lube.

Next, whoever is wielding the toy should pick a designated butt-hand. You want to be careful not to get fecal bacteria in your other orifices, so use just one hand to touch your asshole, and keep it off-limits from any other activity. Put a nickel-sized amount of lube on your fingers, and apply the lube to your anus. You can push your fingers in a few inches to get some lube inside and prepare yourself for the toy. Then thoroughly saturate your toy with lube. You want it so lubed that it practically slips out of your hand. Lube is your friend when it comes to anal, and you really can’t use too much. For peace of mind, you can put a towel under your butt to guard your sheets against lube spillage.

Holding your toy in your butt-hand, press the tip of the toy against your anus as you continue masturbating. Just hold it there for a few moments while your body adjusts to the pressure. When you feel ready, gently push the toy in about an inch or less, then hold it there. If this feels painful or like there’s too much resistance, slowly pull the toy out. Hold it against your anus while you keep masturbating. You can also add a little more lube if you feel like the toy is tugging at your skin or not gliding smoothly. If all systems are go, slowly slide the toy further in, an inch at a time, taking breaks to hold it in place and keep masturbating. Once it feels like the toy is fully inserted, try taking your hands off of it. Some toys will stay in place snugly, while others may get pushed around a bit by your sphincters. If it feels like your butt is pushing your toy out, just hold onto it to keep it in place. If your toy has a flat base, you can sit up a bit so the base comes in contact with your bed and keeps the toy inside. You can keep the toy stationary, and enjoy the sensation of fullness it creates. Or try moving it in and out or around in circles.

When your orgasm, your muscles will contract, and will attempt to push the toy out. This is where having a towel beneath you comes in handy! You can let your body do its thing without having to scramble to catch the little plug being shot out of your butthole. The sensation of the toy coming all the way out of your asshole can feel a little bizarre, so just take a deep breath. If it doesn’t come out on its own, ease it out slowly. You may be tempted to pull it out quickly, but doing so feels a little too similar to pooping, so take your time.

If you’re using a toy with a partner, you may notice that the anus stays agape after the toy has been removed. This will be especially noticeable if you used a girthy toy. Don’t worry, your butthole will return to its usual puckered state in just a few minutes. Just pretend it’s saying “WOW!”

Wrap your toy up in your towel or in some Kleenex, and take it to the bathroom to clean and sanitize it. Don’t forget to wash your hands with soap and water, especially before touching other parts of your or your partner’s bodies.

Congratulations, you’ve now leveled-up in your anal adventures!